9 Signs a Guy Wants You to Chase Him

Some guys are very straightforward, show interest, make the first move, and pursue you. Some others, instead, are just the opposite, because they’re afraid of rejection and need some encouragement.

Well, they say they need “some encouragement,” but the reality is, they need a lot of it. In fact, they need you to do part of the chase, to feel confident enough and finally admit that they like you or make a move.

Understanding whether a guy is not that into you or actually wants you to chase him can be tricky.

His actions might be confusing, making it hard to understand his true intentions. So, recognizing the signs he wants you to chase him can help you better understand what he’s thinking and what he wants from you.

He Shows Signs of Interest, Only to Withdraw Later

When a guy likes you but wants you to chase him, he’ll show clear signs of interest – only to play hot and cold later.

For example, he might give you compliments, engage in deep conversations, and show genuine curiosity about you.

He’ll make an effort to get to know you and go out of his way to make you feel special. However, after that, he’ll pull away.

The moment you expect him to take the next step like asking you out, he’ll say goodbye or end the conversation, and leave you wondering about his level of interest.

What often explains this hot and cold behavior is not a loss or lack of interest. Like I said, many men are terrified by rejection. That’s why they need that extra encouragement from you before even thinking of making a move.

He Tries to Make You Jealous

If a guy tries to make you jealous, it’s often a sign that he wants to see a reaction. He might talk about other women, flirt with them in front of you, or mention how much fun he’s having with his friends.

These actions are meant to make you perceive him as desirable, trigger some kind of reaction from you, and make you realize your feelings for him. By making you jealous, he hopes to see you chasing him.

This tactic is often a man’s way of testing your interest and seeing if you care enough to fight for his attention.

Sometimes He Texts You, Sometimes He Doesn’t

Inconsistent communication is a common sign that a guy wants you to take the initiative too. Sometimes he texts you frequently, showing a lot of interest and engagement.

Other times, he becomes distant and waits for you to text. This hot-and-cold behavior can be confusing and frustrating, but it’s often a deliberate tactic to keep you on your toes.

By being unpredictable, he hopes you’ll think more about him and text him more.

He Doesn’t Ask You Out, Even if He’s Clearly Interested

When a guy shows clear signs of interest but then doesn’t ask you out, it’s an indication that he might need you to show more interest.

He might flirt with you, spend a lot of time with you, and drop hints about his intenton to date you or getting to know you better – but he never takes the initiative to plan a date.

This behavior is often meant to encourage you to take the next step. By not asking you out, he’s creating a situation where you feel compelled to chase him.

This tactic is often a man’s way of understanding if you’re really interested too.

He Looks at You (a Lot)

Frequent eye contact is a subtle yet powerful sign that a guy is interested. He might look at you from across the room, hold your gaze during conversations, or steal glances when he thinks you’re not looking.

This intense focus on you is his way of showing his interest without being too overt. By maintaining eye contact, he’s trying to create a connection and make you feel drawn to him.

His looks are meant to make you curious and encourage you to make a move or send him some signals that you’re interested too.

He Interacts with You on Social Media

A guy who wants you to chase him will often interact with you on social media. Here’s how and why.

He might like your posts, comment on your pictures, or send you direct messages.

These interactions are his way of staying on your radar and keeping the lines of communication open. By engaging with you online, he’s showing interest without making a direct move.

This behavior is meant to keep you thinking about him and encourage you to reach out or make a move. His social media interactions are a way of maintaining a presence in your life without having to be too bold.

He Plays Hot and Cold, But Keeps Coming Back

When a guy plays hot and cold, it’s often a sign he likes you but is playing it cool or fears rejection. One moment, he looks really into you, making you feel special. The next, he becomes distant. Just like that.

This inconsistency can be confusing, but it’s often intentional. By keeping you guessing, he hopes to make you more interested and eager to pursue him. When he eventually comes back around, he’s testing your reaction to see if you missed him.

This cycle of engagement and withdrawal keeps you hooked, making you more likely to chase after his attention.

When He Finally Makes a Bolder Move, He Plays It Cool Again

If he finally makes a bolder move, like asking you out or asking your number, but then quickly returns to playing it cool, it’s usually because he needs to see more interest from you.

He might flirt intensely or suggest spending time together, only to act indifferent afterwards. Because he wants you to chase him a bit more.

By making a bold move and then pulling back, he leave you wondering about his true feelings and encourages you to show him that you’re interested too.

Like I said, many guys fear rejection because of traumatic past experiences. WHich is often mistaken for lack of interest.

So, when you’re dealing with one of these guys and you really like him, you’ll need to make a move or at least give him a clear sign of interest.

He Takes a Long Time to Reply to Texts

When a guy takes a long time to reply to your texts, it could be another sign he wants you to chase him. He could be intentionally delaying his responses to test you and to encourage you to show more interest. Some guys are like that.

By not replying immediately, he’s keeping you on your toes, isn’t he? And trust me, 99% of the time he knows what he’s doing.